Young people can join gangs for a number of reasons. They can join to get:
More crimes are committed against teenagers than any other age group, but here are some things they can do to keep safe on the streets:
http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/parents/yourchildshealthandsafety/worriedabout/dg_10015785
Rule #1:
STAY AWAY FROM DANGER, DON’T TALK TO STRANGERS!
Rule #2:
REMEMBER THE ADULTS YOU TRUST, CHECK WITH THEM FIRST YOU MUST!
Rule #3:
IT’S OK TO YELL, THEN GO RUN AND TELL!
Rule #4:
IT’S SAFER WITH TWO, YOUR BUDDY AND YOU!
Rule #5:
THERE’S NOTHING TO SAY, JUST WALK AWAY!
Rule #6:
DON’T GET IN THE CAR, RUN FAST AND FAR!
Rule #7:
IF YOU LEARN YOUR ADDRESS AND PHONE, YOU’LL BE SAFER WHEN YOU’RE ON YOUR OWN!
Rule #8:
ON THE STREET OR IN THE MALL, WALK PROUD, STRONG AND TALL!
Rule #9:
IF YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE LET SOMEONE KNOW, DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY THE WORD NO!
Rule #10:
DON’T LOSE YOUR COOL, REMEMBER THE RULES!
Closeted in the home or watched over by ‘helicopter’ parents, children lack much of the freedom they had only 50 years ago. What changed? Steve Humphries, who has made a new TV series on the way young people play, charts the rise of stranger danger.
British children’s play has been transformed in the last 100 years. Up to the 1960s there were few children who didn’t spend much of their free time outdoors, playing in the fields, parks, streets, back alleys, old bombsites and local beauty spots.
This play was unsupervised by mum or dad and children were free to go on adventures far from home. Sadly this world of independent child’s play has today largely vanished. One of the important reasons for this decline is the inexorable rise of stranger danger and child abduction in modern Britain.
The impact this had on children’s play is vividly recalled by many growing at the time.It was in the mid 1960s that this new threat to children’s freedom really took hold of the popular imagination. Child murderers Ian Brady and Myra Hindley helped change the nation’s attitude towards children’s outdoors play. Their sadistic crimes became one of the most sensational television news stories of the 60s.
“I still remember the feelings of terror at seeing Myra Hindley’s face on the news, there was a kind of loss of innocence, you didn’t feel safe after that,” says Lancashire boy Steve Wakefield, born in 1955. “Up until then parents didn’t worry too much about where you went and what time you came home. But afterwards they wanted to keep you in the street and if you weren’t home by the time it was getting dark they were really concerned and you got into trouble with them.”
The fear that it was unwise to allow children to play outdoors without parental supervision was heightened by some other major social changes that were increasing dangers on the streets. A huge rise in car ownership and road traffic proved a big threat to children’s safety and to the way working class communities used their street as a playground.
There is little doubt that parental fears of stranger danger have been an important factor that has helped drive a generation of children indoors. Recent surveys show that most children spend much more of their free time playing indoors than outdoors – a complete reversal of the play habits of children in the 1950s and before.
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If you were losing you’d go in to Mum but she had no sympathy and say sort it out yourself – 10 minutes later you’d be out on the streets again
Laura Hopkins
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Growing affluence and the child-centred society has certainly not brought with it a richer outdoor play experience for children. The physical and psychological consequences of this lost world of children’s play are now beginning to be felt, most obviously with the well documented increase in child obesity, child aggression and the isolation of children who now spend most of their free time indoors.
Quite apart from the health benefits of children spending free time playing running, chasing and hiding games in the streets and fields, independent play also taught them important social skills. There were inevitably disagreements and upsets over who were the winners and losers of all the games, but resolving them without parental interference helped the children grow up.
As Laura Hopkins, 60, from Manchester remembers: “If you were losing you’d go in and complain to Mum but she had no sympathy for you because she’d know it was just a bit of a disagreement, she’d say sort it out yourself. So 10 minutes later you’d be out on the streets again and you learned a lesson from that.”
Perhaps you have already talked to children about the danger of ‘strangers’. But does your child actually understand what is meant by a ‘stranger’? When children’s charity Kidscape interviewed 500 children aged between five and eight, they found that while nine out of ten knew they should never go with a stranger, there was a lot of confusion about what a stranger actually looks like or does. Six out of ten of the children questioned thought a stranger couldn’t be a woman and most described a stranger as a sinister-looking man with dark glasses and a beard.
It’s vitally important your child knows that a stranger is anyone that they do not know. They can be male, female, young, old – any person unknown to your child who approaches them for no reason (unless your child is obvious distress, has had an accident or is lost) could pose a danger. It doesn’t matter how smartly dressed they are or how polite and well-meaning they appear – any person your child does not know, who approaches them or tries to offer them a lift should be ignored and your child should quickly walk or run away from them.
There is nothing more wonderful than the freedom, adventure and fun of childhood. We value our own memories of childhood adventures and exploration. Yet, today, it seems more than ever that we should be aware of where our children are, who is around them and teaching them how to keep themselves from danger.
Here is a video of a stranger coaxing a child into his car!!
