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Teen Advice – Dating Safely

7. Know The Warning Signs of Dating Violence and Relationship Abuse

Dating violence is extremely common among teens. Even if your partner is charming and sweet at first, look out for signs of abusive relationships, such as:

• isolating you from friends and family
• having angry outbursts
• blaming others for problems
• threatening to hurt you during arguments
• getting extremely jealous for no reason
• acting cruel toward animals or children
• trying to control you by belittling your values or ideas.

If these warning signs sound like someone you’re dating, take a step back and reevaluate the relationship. If you need help figuring out what to do, talk to a school guidance counselor, social worker, teacher, pastor or domestic violence hotline. You are not alone!

Reference: http://teenadvice.about.com/

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What parents can Do to help their children stay safe and avoid dangerous situations.

In addition to teaching children how to recognize and handle dangerous situations and strangers, there are a few more things parents can do to help their children stay safe and avoid dangerous situations.
  • Know where your children are at all times. Make it a rule that your children must ask permission or check in with you before going anywhere. Give your children your work and cell phone numbers so they can reach you at all times.
  • Teach your children to be assertive. Make sure they know that it’s okay to say no to an adult and to run away from adults in dangerous situations.
  • Teach children to trust their instincts. Explain that if they ever feel scared or uncomfortable, they should get away as fast as they can and tell an adult. Tell them that sometimes adults they know may make them feel uncomfortable, and they should still get away as fast as possible and tell another adult what happened. Reassure children that you will help them when they need it.
  • Point out safe places. Show your children safe places to play, safe roads and paths to take, and safe places to go if there’s trouble.
  • Encourage your children to play with others. There’s safety in numbers!

Reference: http://www.ncpc.org/topics/violent-crime-and-personal-safety/strangers/

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Recognizing and Handling Dangerous Situations

Perhaps the most important way parents can protect their children is to teach them to be wary of potentially dangerous situations. This will help them when dealing with strangers as well as with known adults who may not have good intentions. Help children recognize the warning signs of suspicious behavior, such as when an adult asks them to disobey their parents or do something without permission, asks them to keep a secret, asks children for help, or makes them feel uncomfortable in any way. Also tell your children that an adult should never ask a child for help, and if one does ask for their help, teach them to find a trusted adult right away to tell what happened.

You should also talk to your children about how they should handle dangerous situations. One ways is to teach them “No, Go, Yell, Tell.” If in a dangerous situations, kids should say no, run away, yell as loud as they can, and tell a trusted adult what happened right away. Make sure that your children know that it is okay to say no to an adult in a dangerous situation and to yell to keep themselves safe, even if they are indoors. It’s good to practice this in different situations so that your children will feel confident in knowing know what to do. Here are a few possible scenarios:

  • A nice-looking stranger approaches your child in the park and asks for help finding the stranger’s lost dog.
  • A woman who lives in your neighborhood but that the child has never spoken to invites your child into her house for a snack.
  • A stranger asks if your child wants a ride home from school.
  • Your child thinks he or she is being followed.
  • An adult your child knows says or does something that makes him or her feel bad or uncomfortable.
  • While your child is walking home from a friend’s house, a car pulls over and a stranger asks for directions.
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What to Teach Kids About Strangers

Kids see strangers every day in stores, in the park, and in their neighborhoods. Most of these strangers are nice, normal people, but a few may not be. Parents can protect their children from dangerous strangers by teaching them about strangers and suspicious behavior, and by taking a few precautions of their own.

Who is a stranger?

A stranger is anyone that your family doesn’t know well. It’s common for children to think that “bad strangers” look scary, like the villains in cartoons. This is not only not true, but it’s dangerous for children to think this way. Pretty strangers can be just as dangerous as the not-so-pretty ones. When you talk to your children about strangers, explain that no one can tell if strangers are nice or not nice just by looking at them and that they should be careful around all strangers.

But don’t make it seem like all strangers are bad. If children need help – whether they’re lost, being threatened by a bully, or being followed by a stranger – the safest thing for them to do in many cases is to ask a stranger for help. You can make this easier for them by showing them which strangers are okay to trust.

Who are safe strangers?

Safe strangers are people children can ask for help when they need it. Police officers and firefighters are two examples of very recognizable safe strangers. Teachers, principals, and librarians are adults children can trust too, and they are easy to recognize when they’re at work. But make sure that you emphasize that whenever possible, children should go to a public place to ask for help.

You can help your children recognize safe strangers by pointing them out when you’re out in your town. Also show your children places they can go if they need help, such as local stores and restaurants and the homes of family friends in your neighborhood.

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Being in a gang – the fantasy and reality

Children may think that being in a gang will give them a glamorous lifestyle, but the reality is very different. Being in a gang puts children and young people at more risk of:
  • committing crime
  • dealing or taking drugs
  • ending up in prison
  • being a victim of violence or even death
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Why do young people join street gangs?

Young people can join gangs for a number of reasons. They can join to get:

  • recognition
  • excitement
  • friends
  • acceptance
  • a sense of belonging
  • power over other people
  • money from crime
  • protection
  • territory
  • respect
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Keeping Teenagers Safe

More crimes are committed against teenagers than any other age group, but here are some things they can do to keep safe on the streets:

  • stay alert, and keep personal stereos/MP3 players turned off, so they can hear what’s going on around them
  • stick to busy, well-lit roads, and avoid short cuts through alleyways
  • if your child thinks someone is following them, they should cross the road or go to a place with lots of people around, like a bus stop or shop
  • your child could carry a whistle or shrill alarm around their neck or on a key chain to warn off suspicious strangers
  • when travelling by bus, your child should try to use bus stops on busy roads
  • if someone tries to take something from your child, tell them never to fight
  • tell them to keep mobile phones and other valuables out of sight, and to turn off their mobile phone ringer to avoid attracting attention
  • don’t let your child carry weapons because they are more likely to be used against them, and it’s illegal
  • encourage your child to speak up if they are being bullied or feel they might be in danger

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While Your Out With Your Children

 Sometimes, young children can still be vulnerable even if you are with them. Following these simple precautions should give you peace of mind:
  • try to keep your children within your sight or another adult’s whom you trust
  • use reins for your toddler – these will keep your child nearby even if you get distracted
  • when out and about visiting places, always arrange a meeting point for you and your child, in case either of you get lost
  • make sure you all travel together in the same train carriage, or have seats close together on a bus or coach
  • always go with your child into public toilets
  • remind your child never to talk to strangers, even if you are nearby
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Protecting Young Children

Statistics show that crime against young children by strangers is rare. Even so, these seven tips can help protect your child:
  • tell your child to avoid talking to people they don’t know when you’re not around
  • make sure your child knows never to walk away with anyone without first telling the person in charge
  • make sure your child understands that they should always tell you if a stranger approaches, and never to keep this secret
  • if your child is travelling alone, tell them to sit near other families on the train or bus
  • if your child has to use a lift – tell them only to use lifts with friends, and not to feel worried about getting out if they are uncomfortable about someone else being in there
  • if your child gets lost, they should ask for help from a police officer, another grown-up with children or someone working at a nearby shop
  • have your children learn their address and telephone number by heart
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10 Rules To Stranger Danger

If you follow these 10 rules, you will always be safe!

Rule #1:

STAY AWAY FROM DANGER, DON’T TALK TO STRANGERS!

Rule #2:

REMEMBER THE ADULTS YOU TRUST, CHECK WITH THEM FIRST YOU MUST!

Rule #3:

IT’S OK TO YELL, THEN GO RUN AND TELL!

Rule #4:

IT’S SAFER WITH TWO, YOUR BUDDY AND YOU!

Rule #5:

THERE’S NOTHING TO SAY, JUST WALK AWAY!

Rule #6:

DON’T GET IN THE CAR, RUN FAST AND FAR!

Rule #7:

IF YOU LEARN YOUR ADDRESS AND PHONE, YOU’LL BE SAFER WHEN YOU’RE ON YOUR OWN!

Rule #8:

ON THE STREET OR IN THE MALL, WALK PROUD, STRONG AND TALL!

Rule #9:

IF YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE LET SOMEONE KNOW, DON’T BE AFRAID TO SAY THE WORD NO!

Rule #10:

DON’T LOSE YOUR COOL, REMEMBER THE RULES!

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